When a single Black girl does something, there’s a 99.9 and a half p.c likelihood she is going to hear seven phrases from a Black man. “That’s why you don’t have a person.”
Brothers. We gotta do higher. We’re beginning to sound like Diddy.
Sean Combs’ former assistant Capricorn Clark informed a narrative on the stand of his trial Tuesday (Could 27) that illustrates an issue Black girl have been coping with for years. In 2010 Combs and his assistant shared a meal Diddy’s LA residence and the subject of why Capricorn doesn’t have a boyfriend comes up.
Diddy referred to as Cassie into the room and informed her to do three issues: sit down, rise up and switch round. Three requests she promptly obeyed. (Yeah, it’s bizarre. It brings to thoughts the scene in “Coming To America” the place Akeem had a possible bride bark like a canine and hop on one leg.)
Diddy then appears at Capricorn and says, along with his complete rattling chest, “You b*tches don’t need to try this. And that’s why you don’t have a person.”
Diddy in all probability thought he was being humorous. To maintain her job, it could not be shocking if Ms. Clark laughed alongside. However it’s clear the laughter was not real. In any other case, she wouldn’t have talked about it on the stand.
Let’s get clear on this, gents. It’s time to have a dialog about this phrase.
It’s narcissistic. Or, for those who don’t like huge phrases, let me put it like Black people from earlier generations used to place it: you’re smelling your self.
A Black girl doesn’t should be with anybody, however for the sake of dialog, suppose she desires to. That doesn’t imply she needs to be keen to do no matter a dude tells her to earn the distinct privilege to be with him. GTFOH.
That phrase is normally uttered by males on to a Black girl within the hopes that she may really feel insecure or it’s stated to a romantic associate about one in every of her associates when the person feels insecure about her friendship with a single girl. In each instances it’s, I’m on the lookout for a greater, extra articulate phrase her…whack.
There are every kind of the explanation why a Black girl could also be single. Perhaps it’s as a result of Black girls outnumber Black males. Or as a result of they, on common, are extra profitable and earn more money. Ya know, it might be that 25% of Black males, once they do go to the altar, marry somebody of a distinct race. ( you RG3.)
Or it might be so simple as Black girls simply don’t need to put up with narcissistic, pig-headed males who would say that like they’re God’s best present to humankind. It doesn’t matter what, we have to retire that phrase. It’s not as unhealthy as calling a Black girl out her title. However it’s mighty shut.